By now you have probably seen the shocking *gasp* pic on the cover of Time Magazine. The mag comes out tomorrow but the image is viral. It struts a very attractive- not an ounce of fat on her body, blonde haired, tall – 26 year old mom, standing upright and looking right into the camera while her 3year old son stands on a little chair sucking on her breast. {p.s. – fast forward 15 years from today – this kid is NEVER going to live this down!}

Hmm… Happy Mothers day y’all!

The headline reads.. ARE YOU MOM ENOUGH?

The article is about attachment parenting and yada yada… go read it if you care.

My issue is the question presented. Asking me… AM I MOM ENOUGH?

Mom enough for what? for who? and who is judging?

Let me tell you right now that there are so many pressures being a parent, specifically a mother.  Mothers constantly juggle family life, career, loss of career,  social life and that ever-present “I am losing my identity” crisis.

So why is TIME magazine asking me if I am mother enough and what does that mean and how is TIME justifying this?

I skipped the baby years with Lily. We adopted her when she was 3 years old. She was potty trained, speaking, walking, eating solids and she was awesome.

So does this disqualify my mommyhood status?

I didn’t suffer through the infant years and went straight for the cute years?  I didn’t breastfeed, or practice attachment parenting, diaper changes, or have months of sleepless nights due to crying baby…what else am I missing?

I might just not be MOM enough.

Of course this article has to come out during Mothers Day, why celebrate the good of motherhood when we can ask them a question to make them feel insecure.

My house is messy, I sometimes forget Lily’s snack, I still have christmas presents wrapped that need to be sent to my god children, I don’t cook often, I don’t plan meals, my laundry is overflowing because the laundry fairy has quit us, the guinea pigs cage is not clean right now, the flowers are not planted, my kitchen apron.. i don’t have a kitchen apron, I don’t have full make up and a dress with stilettos when I greet my chirpy kid from school every day and I …. oh gosh i could go on!

But I AM mother enough and so are you and don’t let some sensational mag cover desperate for selling issues at our expense make you feel any different.

Be proud of your ways and charge forward, that little one looking up at you thinks you are the QUEEN BEE so own it!

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AOL-Patch Mom Council

More wonderful things happening over here y’all!

A couple weeks ago, I received  a call from an editor of the AOL online news source PATCH asking me to head up a local MOM COUNCIL.

After hearing all it entailed. I said YES!

Of course I said Yes, I get to voice my opinion and create a dialogue for parents online.

This is great because I know there are parents like me who crave a community and sometimes just do not have the time to do this in the human form… this is where online communities are gold! Chatting about things that matter online with a group of parents who get where you are coming from and truly understand  and offer advice. It’s great!

I was asked to put together a MOM COUNCIL.

So before posting a “call for mom’s” I decided to reach out to those I know and care very much about. Those Mom’s who really helped me out so very much when I first became a parent who are also amazing mothers themselves with different backgrounds and personalities.

I sent an email out to 10 women and 8 said YES! so there ya go. I have my mom council.

*I had to pick mom’s who lived in my town and nearby… PATCH rules*

Every Wednesday at 1pm, the PATCH posts a MOM TALK discussion LIVE online. and the MOM COUNCIL and others help facilitate these discussions.  If you miss the 1pm chat you can always go back and comment and get responses. It’s a way to engage parents around topics as light-hearted as holiday travel and as difficult as teenage substance issues.

Join me every Wednesday at 1pm or whenever at  CHAPPAQUA- MOUNT KISCO  PATCH

I would love to add more parents to my council so please connect with me if you live in Northern Westchester!

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