neighbours

NeighboursWhen i lived in India, I have these memories of neighbours.
Neighbours were almost like family.we actually called them “auntie and Uncle”

When I was in college at the University of South Florida in Tampa, FL I had neighbours who partied with us all the time. We’d talk across balconies, have parties and share lazy sundays together.
Now that i am grown and have a home and hubby and kiddo, I have neighbours…but it’s different. First becasue I live on street that is predominantly business. Business’s like lawyers, doctors,dentists,flower shops, massage..etc they are all practices in old homes like mine. so the street looks tres ideal. The trees, the gardens, the old homes neatly manicured but not many neighbours.
I have about 5 residental homes on my street. I know three of the five people.
Our neighbour Jackie O (name made up) came over today with her two dogs. We shared some wine and some stories and talked about our stresses and our joys.

Neighbours are part of an extended family. I look forward to Jackie O and her dogs. Lily loves playing with her doggies and i love sharing the fruit of the grape and exerting my gift of gab!

Jackie O is a patron of the arts, and works for Eileen Fisher. I  NOW own ONE solitary article from Eileen Fisher, an overcoat gifted to me by Jackie O. I like Eileen Fisher becasue of their commitment to community, arts and women. They have tons of grants that award the three demographics mentioned. A profitable company that is giving back…what a genius concept! Giving to the arts is important to me because I am in the arts, community giving is also vital.

My mom is a social worker and the importance of giving has been instilled in me since birth. Supporting women run business just plain ole rocks! so yea to neighbours and yes to Eileen Fisher!!! and Jackie O and her dogs rock my world.

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bare

I heard about the Bare escentuals free giveaway and hopped along to a bare store and picked up my free sample. It’s great! I think the Matte is a bit dull. The sales lady said that it is suposed to give you a flat non-dewey look…and that it does! I like the deweyness!

Free Bare

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nose knows

Pointy noseLily said she hurt the “pointy part” of her nose and self prescribed a rainbow band-aid.

Ah the power of rainbows! it fixes eveything.

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A life in my day aug.26.09

7:30am: wake up

7:45am: still lying in bed staring at Lily ( who snuck in late at night).

7:50am: thought about running.

8:00am: Snooze

8:15am: finally out of bed and brushing teeth.

8:25am: making coffee, no milk. ( matt goes to get milk) Must have coffee.

8:30am: News that Ted Kennedy passed away.

8:35am: FB update.

8:45am: three emails sent. List for the day made. Decided against the run.

8:50am: “mother’s helper” arrives but Lily is still asleep so she leaves.

8:55am: Call From Joanna about coffee in Harlem.

9am: Lily awakes. Argh where is the “mother’s helper”.

9:15am: In the car headed out to harlem.

9:20am: Jammin out to Brit Brit thinking back on the days.

9:40am: Still jammin to Brit Brit.

10am: Breakfast at a greek diner in harlem where my flip flop came off and the owner asked me to put em back on.

10:30am: Good planning with Joanna.

11:10am: Back in car headed back home.

noon: Home and putting thinks away, killing ants, starting the dishwasher and threw in a load of laundry.

12:30pm: Lily is with Matt. So I catch up on emails, work on a proposal for a grant and of course crackbook!

1:30pm: Pool.

3:30pm: still at pool.

4:10pm get home in time to catch the sitter. and get stung by a BEE. Sitter kills the bee.

4:30pm. Thought I was going on a dinner date…but no.

6pm: Dinner at Q…a bar – b – que rest. yummy. Leg still throbbing from the bee sting.

7:30pm: Target, to buy a sewing needle I broke the day before.

8:15pm: Home, and coloring with Lily

8:30pm: Fixed my sewing machine all by myself!

8:35pm: Sewing all kinds of felt pencil and crayon cases for the nieces and nephews and god kids.

9pm: lily in bed. Thanks Matt!

9pm – 11pm: sewing! loves it. I have everything else to do but sewing seems to take my mind off it all. (P.S. I don’t really know how to sew).

11:30pm Law and Order.

12:30am: Blogging.

1:30am Bed.

1:45am: Restless. Back to computer.

2:34am: Updated blog and decided to tell people I have one. ( so if you are reading this, comment)

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plus “hate”

I am watching “Kate” of John and Kate plus 8 on Larry King Live. I can’t figure out what to think of this? I remember boasting that I was getting parenting tips from this show. I loved the show! I thought their realtionship was quirky but fun, the kids were happy, Kate was a bit nuts, but not any nuttier than most the women I see everyday.

Well, It’s unfortunate. It’s sad, of course you have to think of the kids. But what about John and Kate? What happens 8 yrs from today? 18 yrs? 28 yrs? What is going to be the state of their relationship? With each other, with the kids?

Kate is going to get her own show where she will prove that she is super “single” mom, with her $70,000 an episode and nannies that are hidden. But poor papa John. He’s gonna grow old alone?

I was asked that last week…”are you afraid of growing old alone?”

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Pool time woes

Lily and I spend hours at the pool almost everyday. Although this is satisfying sometimes, most of the time my mind is trying to think of all the things I could be/should be doing!

We have about 2 weeks left on the pool calendar so I’m going to suck it up and deal.

The hot summer fun days of the pool come with their own set of requirements, sunsreen multiple times a day, daily scrub downs, wet towels that need to be laundered everyday, food crumbs in the bottom of my pool bag, daily lunch, snacks, hydration and my poor bathing suits that are coming apart at the seams.

Some things I can handle…others not so much.

So please pass on your wisdom to help me out with the following dilemnas.

  • How do I get the chlorine smells out of my hair and Lily’s hair?
  • My eyes BURN from swimming in the water, I don’t wear goggles because I have to stay focused on Lily. She’s 4 and can’t really swim. How do I get rid of the burn, and blurryness.
  • My skin has white spots all over! I’m brown skinned. I have these white fuzzy spots on my arms and back and chest.

Ah dog days of summer, I am ready for fall!

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simple request

Lily got in trouble today and looked at me and said…”oh mommy, please don’t let this be a day without icecream.”

Oh how i long for days when a day without  ice cream was my worry!

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ugh

Ugh! i go to the pool everyday and have such a fun time with my kiddie, but once I get home and realize that I have sooo much to do or more importantly, so much I WANT to do and spent yet another day at the pool…I just feel UGH!
why?

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Kids clothing deal

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drinking mom

There was this huge accident on the Taconic last week that had my feelings/emotions working overtime.

A mother drove the wrong way on the Taconic Parkway and ran smack into a car that killed the three innocent people who were on their way to a Sunday family dinner. The mom, had 4 kids in her car only one survived the crash. So the mom + 3 kids + 3 innocent died.

The story is pretty sad and astounding. When the news first broke, I felt an obvious sadness for the mom, the kids and especially the innicont trio. The news hinted at an unknown illness, maybe a sudden heart attack or anuerism. I was very sad and very scary. It could happen to me. I could be the mom, I could have a sudden heart attack, a secret illness…it could be me being hit as an innocent. It could be my kid.

Then news came that she was intoxicated AND high. She had 10 vodka drinks, and had smoked pot. She also was double the legal inotxication limit with some of the alcohol still undigested upon death. So…she was DRINKING while in the car with her kids!

Her 8 year old daughter apparently called the mom’s brother to say , “mom is driving crazy come get us”. She drove for 2 miles, speeding, going the wrong way, DRINKING, with kids in the car before slamming into an innocent trio, killing them.

How could this be? She was DRINKING while in the car with her kids???

I know this and worse happens all over the world everday. I know. This happened 10 mins from where i live. So it  hit home i guess.

I read this article about the crash. ( please read the article, it’s a quick read.)

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1915467,00.html?cnn=yes

There is a HUGE problem here that is going undetected.

I sometime partake in the 4pm cocktail Mom-hour!

As I shared this info with a friend on the playground today, I was surprised to hear that she too was a 4pm cocktail mom-hour member. there are lots of us. My cocktail hour is  wine with my neighbour. My friend says she takes two shots of tequila, while another said she “starts the drinking for the night” at 4pm.

She mentally checks out with the first drink and the countdown for bedtime  starts.

This is a problem that no one is addressing…or maybe it’s being addressed lightly.

Among all the play groups, all the playdates, all the mommy groups. not ONE mentions this trend. Yet when I brought it up, I received a lot of feedback about drinking.  A lot of, ” I do that too”.

There are multiple blogs and websites about this. Some are anonymous, most with authors who give their stories about becoming alcoholics. If this is such a “trend”? How do we stop it? Should there be a  cocktail mom-hour AA?

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