I have enjoyed the most glorious few days with this little sweet pea of mine!! We’ve had the best adventures these past couple weeks and folks I am here to tell you… I might just have found a way to tame the 9YO hormonal dragon.
Lily has epic meltdowns frequently… these chemical messengers in the body are apparently normal, but they leave me emotionally wrecked!
A few months ago her dragon-ness was just too much for me to take and she was telling little tiny fibs about everything… everything had some element of a lie and I was so stressed because I didn’t want her to get used to her lying ways – and she is such an angel- but she would tell these lies – and they were all surrounding CANDY!
The S U G A H had a hold on her and wasn’t letting go.
So on the way to work one morning I just did a simple google search.
my 9yo tells lies.
What I discovered was page after page, chat room after chat room about this very topic. You know they say… misery loves company. and I do. Apparently this is normal and so is the candy. It’s a sign of early puberty which is sorta scary because she was JUST running around in tutus and mispronouncing words…
But I’ll take it. It’s normal.
My reaction to her tantrums and meltdowns has changed since. I get it, I understand.
Honestly we have to keep reading about these kiddies and their ages and what to expect because the more ya know… the more you are ready for it.
So I’ve been reading more and more info about 9YO behaviors, patterns and what to expect. ( very national geographic sounding – like i’m studying some species of dragon tween creature)
Arming myself with the tools I need … as a parent.. to handle this dragon stage has really helped me understand Lily.
I always tell her “if you just feel like crying then come over and sit with me and cry, you don’t have to have a reason for it” and she does. She has no idea why she is crying but she will sit with me and wail and then it’s all good. ( sometimes) she is still learning how to contain her out of control meltdowns.
Ahhh don’t grow up!!!!
Do you have any advice on this 9YO age? Seems like their bodies go through so much at this age and we parents just want to hold on!